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Subject:Home sweet home
Time:09:55 pm
Back when I was married, there were a few things that Jeff and I couldn't do without killing each other. We couldn't assemble flat-pack furniture. Canoeing was right out, since we both wanted to steer and both believed that the other was incompetent to do so. (And frankly, he was. :-) We couldn't pitch a tent. Mostly we got along really well, but doing those things or anything similar would send us into fits of snipping at each other so fast your head would spin. As a result, all of my adult life I've been conditioned to believe that those things were hard, and were somehow inherently relationship stressors.

This weekend P and I went up to Big Basin with a few of his friends to go camping. We got there, hauled way too much shit up the hill to the campsite (city slickers, you betcha), and then got to work setting up. I covered my dread pretty well as we unpacked the brand new tent and attempted to figure out how to set it up. No, that goes down first, yeah, that's pretty level. OK, the poles go this way I think, no, wait, that's not right... they cross there. This one goes... oh, OK, like that. Now let's put the rain flap on.

A few short minutes later we had a stable tent set up and had set up bedding. Not one temper flared, not one harsh word was spoken, and we were even smiling. Wow.

Camping was good. The weather was a bit damp but it stopped raining before we got there. The company was excellent, the food was delightful if overwhelming-- dinner was Fred steaks, Semifreddi's bread, fresh mozzarella/heirloom tomato/basil salad, gorgonzola pasta salad, marinated mushrooms, and s'mores, of course. I demonstrated my camp fire girl/boy scout skills by building an excellent fire last night.

This morning we gracefully broke camp, had lunch, and then headed off to the ren fair. There are a few things that I really can't imagine myself doing-- nascar races, Southern Baptist revival meetings, science fiction conventions, and ren fairs. They're all places where it's pretty clear to me that I don't belong, but everybody else wanted to go so I was willing to give it a shot.

Bottom line: I was right that I don't belong there. It's not my kind of place, and they're not my kind of people. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, but I certainly won't ever be making an effort to go back.
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ronsrants
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Time:2007-09-24 01:06 pm (UTC)
nascar races, Southern Baptist revival meetings, science fiction conventions, and ren fairs

It appears to me that you have 4 categories that divide up evenly into two distinct and non-crossing sets.

What about historical recreation events and bass fishing tournaments?

-R
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whipartist
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Time:2007-09-24 05:15 pm (UTC)
Neither of those things seems exceedingly likely either, but I can imagine myself showing up at a civil war reenactment more easily than I can a scifi con.
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ronsrants
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Time:2007-09-24 05:16 pm (UTC)
Do you rank the hierarchy of reenactments? Like is Civil War of higher quality than SCA?

-R
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whipartist
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Time:2007-09-24 05:18 pm (UTC)
Yep, probably. But it's within a narrow range.
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adbjupe
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Time:2007-09-28 01:55 am (UTC)
Don't diss a civil war reenactment. Shortly after I moved to North Carolina I found myself in a *colonial war* reenactment, purely because of my interest in history and trying to get to know my new home area. Some day you might move to Appomattox. It will be hard to avoid then :)
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elgee_isaac
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Time:2007-09-24 02:22 pm (UTC)
I'm going to Nascar weekend in Vegas in march. I have even agreed to go to the race. Crazy i know. but the things we do for love, or peer pressure...
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adb_foldem
Subject:Have no fears
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Time:2007-09-24 05:45 pm (UTC)
You will not be attending an auto race, rather a drinking event with sound effects.
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catness
Subject:When Efficiency Isn't
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Time:2007-09-24 06:40 pm (UTC)
My partner is the kind of person who plans. You know, someone who thinks about "If I do X now, then later Y will happen much more efficiently." It's actually a cool thing to do, and I do it a fair bit myself. The problem with my partner is that the extrapolation around the circumstances of Y is usually about 50% faulty. This leads to fun times, since *I'm* the kind of person who has no respect for incompetence.
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allknight
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Time:2007-09-24 08:40 pm (UTC)
Patti great story about the tent. Makes me think of a few things I had bad memories from my past relationships before I met Debbie. Nice to know that some things do work out later in life if we just give it another try.
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