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Subject:I wish for...
Time:11:47 am
If you could change one thing about yourself, grant yourself one talent that you don't have, what would it be? I don't mean a superpower like flying, but something that some people are just good at.

I wish I could sing.
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trcabbage
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Time:2007-12-12 08:13 pm (UTC)
I would wish to sing as well.
It's just one of those things I enjoy doing so much, but don't have much skill for.

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spidurman
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Time:2007-12-12 08:22 pm (UTC)
Write well (as in creating an original work).
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foomf
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Time:2007-12-21 11:43 pm (UTC)
See, the first one, you have a bit of a Mickey Dolenz look in that user pic, but you can overcome that by finding a really good hair stylist, and for that 'model' look, having your entire face injected with botox and laminated in a properly 'hot' expression, but in reality, you aren't by any means ugly and an overall self-care program, good haircut, and good clothes would easily bring you into the upper 90% of people-on-the-street.

The second one, however, is hard work, but it can be done. The question is, will learning the listening/observing skills and practicing the empathy skills require that you change who you are underneath, or would you just be giving better expression to your real self?

I had the benefit of a very patient boot-to-the-head person, and when we were married she got us me a copy of Miss Manners' Guide, so we'd know the proper wedding-etiquette, and actually reading it explained a lot of what I'd always seen as 'artifice and fakery', as being deliberate choices to treat other people in a way that I would have appreciated myself. (Not that I'm universally good at it, mind.)
That was about half of it. The other half came in making a greater effort to follow the spirit rather than the letter of the law, with regards to my religious faith, since the part I wasn't so good at, involved actually caring for people even if they were, are, or continue to be, hateful jerks.
That part is also hard work.
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fich
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Time:2007-12-12 08:37 pm (UTC)
We all wish you could sing, dear.
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whitebird
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Time:2007-12-13 03:23 am (UTC)
Are you aware of some of her taste in music?

Her being able to sing could actually be more dangerous than her not being able to.
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stevecohen
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Time:2007-12-13 08:56 pm (UTC)
You know, if I weren't straight and you weren's such an anti-semite...
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dmorr
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Time:2007-12-12 08:41 pm (UTC)
I wish I were more motivated. I have a lot of things I'd like to do but that require some amount of effort. I am not good at working on those things as opposed to fucking around on the web, playing games, etc.
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scottro
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Time:2007-12-12 08:45 pm (UTC)
I swear, I almost wrote these exact same words.

I'm such a fucking sloth.

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scottro
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Time:2007-12-12 08:44 pm (UTC)
I wish I had willpower.

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elfs
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Time:2007-12-12 08:51 pm (UTC)
I wish I had focus.
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adb_foldem
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Time:2007-12-12 09:00 pm (UTC)
I would like to be more articulate.
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jiggery_pokery
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Time:2007-12-12 10:07 pm (UTC)
I wish I could be better at coming up with jokes suitable for the audience I was in at the time. (Normally I err on the side of too geeky, rather than too bawdy.)
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rhiannonstone
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Time:2007-12-12 10:21 pm (UTC)
I also really wish I could sing. I love music and I love to sing, but I'm just a horrible singer. And I'm not being modest, either--many people with many different levels of training (and politeness) have informed me of how bad a singer I am. I still sing when I'm alone or with friends who don't care, but I'd love to be able to just sing out whenever, wherever and not worry about how awful I sound.

I usually put some sort of social skills on this wishlist, but I'm slowly getting better at that sort of thing, I think. ;)
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foolishfiddler
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Time:2007-12-12 10:34 pm (UTC)
I wish I had any, ANY sort of athletic talent.
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ronsrants
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Time:2007-12-12 10:40 pm (UTC)
I wish I could be tall. Or at least not slouch as much.

-R
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nworbsirhc
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Time:2007-12-12 11:50 pm (UTC)
I wish I were manic. I have manic-like moments from time to time and thoroughly enjoy them.
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2wanda
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Time:2007-12-13 12:08 am (UTC)
I can sing. It hasn't done me a whole lot of good in life.

I want to be a math wiz.
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catness
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Time:2007-12-13 03:31 am (UTC)
Amen, sister.
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abostick59
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Time:2007-12-13 01:09 am (UTC)
I wish I could tell when people liked me.
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fich
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Time:2007-12-13 10:34 am (UTC)
Maybe you can.
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bldrnrpdx
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Time:2007-12-13 03:57 am (UTC)
I wish I had more motivation. Or ambition. Or whatever it is that drives you to actually Get Stuff Done. I have all sorts of things I want to do, and I could probably figure out how to do them or learn how to do them better if I worked at it. But I suck at the Working At It part. Well, more than I'd like to.
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catness
Subject:I can't narrow this down...
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Time:2007-12-13 04:25 am (UTC)
This is kind of complicated for me. Many of the things that I wish I could be, I could probably have if I stopped farting around doing anything that I already do and just drilled down and worked on it. However, it's just not functionally possible for an adult with a job and a relationship to practice guitar, piano, sax, or singing for 5 hours a day (let alone *all* of them).

The same goes for things like "being better at saving money" or "not being such a procrastinator". I *know* how to make those things happen. I should just get on with it.

As for things that are not like that, but are just maybe magic gifts, that's still split into easy and hard categories for me.

Easy:

  • I'd like to have perfect pitch.
  • I'd like that magic ability to just make music happen easily (I know people with that).


Hard:

  • I have decent luck (all bad things are generally evened out by things to help cope), but I'd like slightly different luck.
  • I'd like the talent to not view my own creativity so cynically, because it makes me laugh at myself or sneer at my attempts, and then not do creative things.
  • I'd like the ability to win the war of perception. I'm tired of being too cute to be smart, too sexy to be interesting, too big to be hot, too small to be physically capable, too young to be taken seriously, too old to be in the game anymore, too female to be technical, too uneducated to be competent, too good for this band, too qualified for this position, too lazy to be a hard worker, too dishonest to be trusted on the job, too ambitious to be happy in this company, too non-standard to be accepted, too disrespectful to be professional, too untalented to play in this cover band, too white to be soulful, too corporate to play blues, too "singer" to be a "musician", too rumpled to be classy, too invisible to be respected, too straight to be queer, too queer to pass, too femme to be strong, too strong to be compassionate or comfortable... bleah. For all that I'm one of the most *visible* people I know, I'm just... really overlooked a lot, in really odd and often completely contradictory ways.



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hlmt
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Time:2007-12-13 06:17 am (UTC)
I wish I had some set of skills that I enjoyed using *AND* that generate income. *sigh*
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sabyl
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Time:2007-12-14 07:19 am (UTC)
I wish I was given more coordination and athletic talent than I was genetically given.
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phoenix14159
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Time:2007-12-18 08:53 am (UTC)
It's hard for me to pick.

- I can sing, but I wish I could play an instrument (guitar or piano would be first choices).

- I wish I could draw.
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chellewoods
Subject:Tough choice....
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Time:2007-12-18 11:36 am (UTC)
I too wish I could sing. I'm REALLY bad at it. I've always wished I could be gifted at math. Oh well, I married someone with good math genes - my children have a shot ;) And I for whatever useless reason always wished I could figure skate really well!
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